Tips to Control Your Anger

Mr. KV Anand    17-09-2021 Consult

Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion when expressed in moderation. However, when it gets out of control, it turns destructive and can lead to problems at work, in your personal relationships, and affect the overall quality of your life. 

Why Are You Angrier Than Others?

If you are easily angered, it can be the result of frustration, low tolerance, annoyance, etc. You cannot take things in your stride and are particularly infuriated if the situation seems unjust somehow, such as being corrected for small petty mistakes. 

Causes of Anger

- Genetic or physiological reasons (Hereditary). There is evidence that some children are born irritable, touchy, and easily angered and it can run in the family. In such individuals, these signs are present from a very early age.

- Sociocultural Pressure. Anger is often regarded as a negative emotion and we all are taught that it's acceptable to express anxiety, depression, or other emotions but not to express anger. As a result, we don't learn how to handle it or channel it constructively.

- Family Background. Typically, people who are easily angered come from families that are disruptive, chaotic, and not skilled at emotional communications. 

- Past Experiences. If you have experienced abuse, trauma, or bullying in the past (as a child or presented as an adult) and were not able to express your anger at that moment. It means that the anger you are feeling presently is a reflection of the events you have gone through in your past. 

Tips for Anger Management

1. Think before you speak. It is easy to say something in the heat of the moment and regret it later. You should always take a moment to collect your thoughts before getting angry to get a clear picture of the situation. 

2. Express your disagreement once you are calm. When you're thinking clearly, expressing your disagreement in an assertive and gentle way becomes easier. State your concerns only if necessary, clearly and directly, without hurting or trying to control them.

3. Stay physically active. Working out can help in reducing stress, thus, leading to reduced anger. If you feel frustrated and your anger escalating, go for a brisk walk or a run. Indulging yourself in any of your favourite physical activities is also helpful.

4. Take a break. Give yourself short breaks during times of the day that tend to be stressful. A few moments of quiet time might help you feel better.

5. Brainstorm for solutions. Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work on resolving the issue at hand. Remind yourself that anger won't fix anything and might only make it worse.